Forgiveness

A well known quote that I feel is sometimes over used, but I believe holds substantial value as it speaks the truth, goes like this, “forgive, but never forget” which coincides with my beliefs and how I handle instances that require me to have to forgive someone. 

I feel that instances that require forgiveness of a person usually involve being left out, forgotten, trust being broken, and pretty much anything that involves you getting the short end of the stick so to speak may lead to you needing to forgive someone in some way shape or form.  I believe forgiveness is something you must commit mentally, and by this I mean you must take whatever problem or action that bothered or hurt you, and make a connection that you are no longer angry at the person for making you feel this way, and that you are okay with the person even if you are not okay with how everything went.  The little ball of anger you feel towards a person due to a specific instance where they let you down, or made you upset or angry, is what must be let go of, and that is what I believe forgiveness is.  Notice I did not say forget or let go of the specific instance as you must never completely forget, which of course is what the famous quote is referring to.  I have found it very hard to forgive certain people of certain things and some things I still have not been able to forgive them, but I believe in time I can and that is all that matters.  It is of course better to forgive right away, but we are all human and that is not always possibly.

Forgiveness should be practiced often and not on occasion as it is unhealthy to hold pent up anger towards someone.  If someone holds onto all their emotions and keeps everything bottled up, they will eventually break down and lose it.  So it is much better to forgive and move on than it is to hold everything on the inside.  I feel that it may seem that something is unforgivable but in reality everything can be forgiven it is up to the person to find it within themselves to do so.  It takes great discipline and to forgive everyone of everything they have done to you, and if a person can do that, they in my eyes are of utmost maturity.